National Orgasm Day is July 31, and it’s the perfect time to celebrate the heat of the summer. In 2018, National Orgasm Day falls on a Tuesday, and I can’t think of a better way to enliven your week and celebrate men’s health than to celebrate with a few orgasms yourself.
Did you know that orgasms are actually good for you?
Below we go through why you should orgasm frequently—and what can you do if you’ve been struggling to have an orgasm recently.
What are the benefits of orgasms?
Having an orgasm is actually good for you. Think of National Orgasm Day a bank holiday—you’re required to celebrate! Orgasms can make you happier and healthier, and they can even help you live longer!
1. Orgasms help you sleep.
Studies show that orgasms have a sedative effect, and they can actually improve your quality and quantity of sleep. Orgasms actually release hormones that promote good sleep.
An orgasm increases oxytocin (“the love hormone”) and melatonin (“the sleep hormone), which help minimize stress and ease your body into relaxation. It also releases serotonin and norepinephrine, which actually help the body move through REM sleep cycles.
Basically, having an orgasm puts you in a good mood, which can help you get a deeper and more restful night’s sleep.
2. Orgasms relieve stress.
The hormones that help induce sleep also help reduce stress. Orgasms create a release of oxytocin, which is considered the “love hormone.” This is because it’s responsible for the warm, trustworthy feeling when we love someone. This naturally relieves stress by bringing us closer to our partner and stimulating feelings of relaxation. An increase in oxytocin improves mood while reducing cortisol (“the stress hormone”).
Plus, having sex actually helps release tension. Easing physical tension can lead to mental and psychological stress reduction as well.
Orgasms are also natural painkillers. The hormones released during orgasm can actually function in the same way as anti-inflammatory medications, which can minimize any pains or aches (especially headaches) that could be linked to your stress.
3. Orgasms boost the immune system.
Studies show that orgasms actually raise antibodies that can fight inflammation and infection. This means that frequent orgasms can help prevent sickness. Feel a cold coming on? Hop in bed—and not just to get extra rest!
4. Orgasms burn calories.
Sex is an effective—and fun—way to burn calories, especially if you get hot and sweaty. Orgasms themselves can burn between 60 and 100 calories. Making out can burn 85 calories per hour, and 15 minutes of foreplay burns about 25 calories (which is double that of jogging for the same time period).
Burning calories in the bedroom can help lose weight, increase stamina, and even improve muscle mass. It’s definitely one of the best ways to workout!
5. Orgasms improve heart health.
The physical activity of sex is also good for your heart. Not only does it help contribute to lower body weight, which reduces risk for heart disease, but it also helps unclog arteries.
A study in 1997 found that men who report orgasming at least 2x per week had a 50% lower risk of death from coronary heart disease than their counterparts having orgasms once a month.
Keeping your heart healthy is especially important as you age. Frequent sex clears out your heart, which helps prevent other diseases as well.
6. Orgasms enhance self-esteem.
Some studies have shown that regular orgasms can improve self-esteem, especially for younger men. This is likely to do with the connection with another person as well as the cocktail of “feel-good” hormones released during orgasm.
Plus, orgasms can actually improve your skin, which can in turn improve self-esteem. Sex regulates hormone levels, which can help minimize acne, dark spots, and other skin concerns. It also reduces stress, which could be contributing to acne or wrinkles. Sex also helps you sweat out toxins that could be clogging or damaging your pores. Healthy skin means a glowing, sexy man!
7. Orgasms improve focus.
Orgasms help clear your mind. You’re focused on sex and the post-sex aura. You’re not thinking about work or external issues. In fact, orgasms can have an almost meditative effect, like yoga or deep breathing.
Having an orgasm can help you re-center and focus. This translates out of the bedroom as well. In fact, there’s a proportional relationship between frequency of orgasms and improved mental state.
8. Orgasms increase productivity.
All of the above health benefits of orgasms help increase your overall productivity. Minimizing stress, reducing pain, improving sleep, boosting immune system, enhancing mood, encouraging self-esteem, improving focus, and protecting health all make you a more productive person.
You’ll find that orgasming can actually make you a better worker (as well as lover, father, husband, and friend).
9. Orgasms lead to longer lives.
Because of all of the above health benefits, studies show that orgasms can actually help you live longer. This is especially because of orgasm’s positive effects on lowering stress and improving sleep. High stress and lack of sleep are linked to some of the most serious diseases including cancer, heart disease, obesity, diabetes, dementia, and chronic inflammation.
Orgasm helps reduce stress and improve sleep, which means that orgasming can actually have a direct impact on the health of your genes as well!
Did you know…
Norway is the country with the most orgasms. 35% of survey respondents claim they orgasm daily, which is significantly above the global average of 2-3 times per week. Maybe that’s why Norwegians are so happy, healthy, and good looking!
Why can’t I orgasm?
What impacts your ability to have an orgasm?
If you’re not able to orgasm like you used to or you want to, it’s not your fault. There are a lot of conditions that can create problems having an orgasm.
Thankfully, pinpointing the cause of your sexual concerns can help you treat it for improved sexual health.
1. Low testosterone
Low testosterone can lead to a number of health concerns, including low libido. Reduced libido reduces your desire to have sex, which can make it a challenge to have an erection or orgasm. Low testosterone also leads to stress, insomnia, fatigue, weight gain, and general unwellness, which can all contribute to a worsened sex life.
Learn more about low testosterone and how it plays a role with orgasm here.
2. Erectile dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction is when you can’t get or sustain an erection long enough to have sex or an orgasm.
The causes of erectile dysfunction can be varied. It can be due to psychological concerns like stress or anxiety, or it can be a physical problem with the brain, nerves, vessels, or penis. ED is often a side effect and warning sign of other diseases, like diabetes, heart disease, chronic inflammation, or high cholesterol. ED can also be linked to prostate troubles like BPH and Peyronie’s disease.
Treating the underlying cause of erectile dysfunction will help improve erections and orgasms—and help you live longer!
3. Performance anxiety
Performance anxiety can manifest in a number of ways:
- Premature ejaculation (PE): ejaculating immediately before or after penetration
- Delayed ejaculation (DE): prolonged period necessary to ejaculate
- Erectile dysfunction: inability to get or sustain an erection long enough for intercourse
- Psychological stress
- Low libido
- Obsessive negative thoughts
Performance anxiety often stems from a man being too anxious about pleasing his partner that he actually can’t perform. Performance anxiety is your brain misplacing some sort of discomfort as legitimate sexual fear, which causes it to shut down. Learn more about how performance anxiety causes sexual and orgasmic dysfunction here.
Like performance anxiety, stress inside or outside the bedroom can cause a man to have troubles orgasming. Even if everything else is working and he’s able to have sex, stress or anxiety can kill a man’s orgasm. It pulls you out of the pleasure or physical sensation, and it releases cortisol, which reduces the production of testosterone.
Stress is one of the key causes of just about every major disorder. It even impacts your genetic expression in a way that makes your body susceptible to disease.
In fact, if a man isn’t having orgasms like he’d like to, his doctor will first look at stress as an initial cause.
How can I improve my orgasm?
Want to celebrate National Orgasm Day with the strongest orgasm you’ve ever had? Here are some simple tips to improve your climactic experience.
1. Address any issues.
If you’re not having an orgasm like you’d like, first take a look at why. If you…
- are suffering from low t levels, you need to raise your testosterone.
- have erectile dysfunction, you may need to determine if there are any other underlying health concerns.
- are dealing with anxiety or stress, you may need to find ways to relax or talk to a professional.
Take care of your health first and foremost. If your body isn’t in good health, sex is the first thing to go (in order to save energy for the more important organs and processes). You need overall wellness to have strong sexual health as well.
2. Do kegels.
Male orgasms involve contractions of the PC muscles (pelvic muscles), anus, perineum, and penis. These muscles all need to be strong in order to have a full and powerful orgasm. The best way to strengthen these muscles is with kegel exercises.
Kegel exercises are easy but effective, and you can do them anywhere at any time. You’ll want to contract and hold the PC muscles for 20-30 seconds, release for 30 seconds, and contract for 30 seconds. To get an idea of what these muscles feel like, try to stop urinating mid-flow. This will give you an idea of which muscles you should squeeze during your kegel exercises.
Certain yoga poses can also help strengthen pelvic muscles. Check out the best exercises and yoga moves for sexual health here.
3. Change your diet.
Eating a sex-friendly diet is one of the easiest ways to improve performance and orgasm. First, a healthy diet can help lose or maintain weight, which can improve self-esteem and lower stress that could be leading to performance anxiety.
Moreover, some foods can actually help improve your sex life. Spinach and kale are sources of vitamin K, which helps dilate blood vessels and promote blood flow to the genitals. Learn more about vasodilator foods here.
There are also a number of foods that can help raise your testosterone levels, like guacamole, eggs, and healthy fats. Learn how to naturally boost testosterone here.
Pro-tip: Eat pomegranates! They’re one of the most delicious and effective foods to boost sexual health.
4. Delay gratification.
One of the easiest ways to improve your orgasm is with a practice in self-restraint. Delayed gratification is hard to master, but it’s a great way to improve climax and gain control over your orgasm experience.
Simply do this by bringing yourself to the “edge,” meaning you’re just about to climax. Then slow down and pause so you don’t ejaculate. Then start back up again. Do this two or three times before letting yourself orgasm. This delayed gratification will make your orgasm more intense and put you in control of your experience.
National Orgasm Day is a great time to practice this technique!
5. Stay focused on the physical.
Erection and orgasm start in the brain, which sends out hormones and signals that alert the body when it’s time to get hard or orgasm. If your brain is busy thinking about other things, it won’t send out signals for orgasm.
When you’re in the bedroom, you need to focus on sex. If you’re thinking about whether or not you did the dishes or handed in that project at work, you’re overworking your brain.
Focus on the physical sensation. Notice what it feels like. This can help bring your head into your penis for a stronger and more powerful orgasm.
6. Focus on your breath.
Like the physical sensation, breathing can help improve your sexual experience and orgasm. Tantric sex is actually a technique that pairs sex with breath to improve overall experience—and people rave about it! Focusing on your breathing during sex helps engage and align your mind with your body.
When you’re about to orgasm, you’ll notice that your breathing might speed up. Notice this and make the active change to keep your breath slow. This will increase oxygen and blood flow, which can actually make your climax even stronger.
7. Have sex.
Practice makes perfect. The more you train your orgasms, the better they’ll be. Plus, strong orgasms are good for your health. So keep having sex—it’s the doctor’s orders!
Happy National Orgasm Day! It’s a great day to start celebrating!
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There’s no better time than National Orgasm Day to take control of your sexual vigor and vitality! See you there.